Finding Good In Complaints, Love Language Day 2

Today is the 2nd of 3 days that I will post the reading from “Love Language Minute Devotional” in anticipation of Valentines Day. Even though many things are done to express ones appreciation and love for another on this day, cupids arrow often misses it’s mark because of not speaking the same “Love Language.”

February 13
Finding the Good in Complaints

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.  1 Corinthians 13:7

What does your spouse complain about most often? We usually interpret complaints as negative criticism, but they are actually giving us valuable information. Complaints reveal the heart. A person’s recurring complaint often reveals his or her love language.

If a husband frequently says, “We don’t ever spend time together. We’re like two ships passing in the night,” he is telling his wife that quality time is his primary love language and his love tank is sitting on empty.

If a wife says, “I don’t think you would ever touch me if I didn’t initiate it,” she is revealing that physical touch is her love language.

If a husband returns from a business trip and his wife says, “You mean you didn’t bring me anything?” she is telling him that gifts is her love language. She can’t believe that he came home empty-handed.

If a wife complains, “I don’t ever do anything right,” she is saying that words of affirmation is her love language, and she is not hearing those words.

If a husband says, “If you loved me, you would help me,” he is shouting that his love language is acts of service.

Do you feel frustrated because you don’t seem to be communicating love to your spouse? First Corinthians 13 reminds us never to give up. Things can improve when we maintain hope. Discovering and speaking your spouse’s love language is one way to help your relationship grow.

Father, I want our relationship as a couple to grow. Please help me to discover my spouse’s love language, and show me how to speak it effectively.

Jesus Is The Aleph & The Tav, The Alpha & The Omega, The First & The Last

א ת  Jesus Α Ω  א ת Jesus Α Ω  א ת Jesus Α Ω  א ת Jesus Α Ω  א ת Jesus Α Ω  א ת Jesus Α Ω

Seeking our Dear Heavenly Father’s assistance in everything we do is a good place to start. Job is believed to be a contemporary of Abraham. In today’s reading from MyDailyBible app, Job tells us this about God’s ability to grant or withhold expression, understanding, and discernment in the minds of humanity.

  • Job 12:11-22  Does not the ear test words as the palate tastes food?
  • 12 Wisdom is with the aged, and understanding in length of days.
  • 13 “With God are wisdom and might; he has counsel and understanding.
  • 14 If he tears down, none can rebuild; if he shuts a man in, none can open.
  • 15 If he withholds the waters, they dry up; if he sends them out, they overwhelm the land.
  • 16 With him are strength and sound wisdom; the deceived and the deceiver are his.
  • 17 He leads counselors away stripped, and judges he makes fools.
  • 18 He looses the bonds of kings and binds a waistcloth on their hips.
  • 19 He leads priests away stripped and overthrows the mighty.
  • 20 He deprives of speech those who are trusted and takes away the discernment of the elders.
  • 21 He pours contempt on princes and loosens the belt of the strong.
  • 22 He uncovers the deeps out of darkness and brings deep darkness to light.

In my last post I mentioned how a marriage can be like the Garden of Eden and then at times, hopefully few and far apart, like a desert. The scripture memory song about God’s Guidance has been with me since I first became a “Born Again with God’s Spirit” Christian. It speaks about us being like a “well water garden” through God’s Guidance.

Isaiah 58:11 The LORD will guide you continually, And satisfy your soul in drought, And strengthen your bones; You shall be like a watered garden, And like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.

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